Your stories
We hope that these stories can help people feel less alone.
We have put together a selection of stories written by men and women that have been affected by prenatal diagnosis and baby loss. The stories cover a range of experiences and emotions. Each experience is individual. We hope that these stories can help people feel less alone.
We are very grateful for the writers of these stories for enabling us to share their moving accounts here.
Stories about continuing a pregnancy after the diagnosis of a genetic or structural condition
Rowan’s story
My pregnancy with Rowan was all pretty normal up until my third trimester. I naively thought that once past the 28week mark, you a... Read more...
Liz’s story
Some years ago, when we were decorating our Christmas tree, my children asked how we could remember the babies at Christmas. Read more...
Harriet’s story
We took it for granted that we had made it to the 12-week mark during our pregnancy. Read more...
Sadia’s story
I lost my baby in 2010 after she was diagnosed with a genetic condition called autosomal recessive polycystic kidney disease (ARPK... Read more...
Shell’s story
In May 2022 we started our IVF journey which, apart from a few hiccups, went seamlessly and we had five top grade embryos. Read more...
I will never forget the first time I held him, it was the happiest yet saddest I have ever been in my life, knowing that he was here but not in the way he should have been.
- Shell
Stories about ending a pregnancy after the diagnosis of a genetic or structural condition
Louise’s story
I’ve been aware of baby loss awareness week for a number of years, but this year is different. This year I get it, in a way I n... Read more...
Olivia’s story
By Becky. We terminated our very wanted and loved daughter Olivia in November 2022 at 13+6 weeks, who had Trisomy 21 (T21, Down’... Read more...
Sheila’s story
“Your baby has club feet.” These words marked the beginning our devastating journey. As soon as the sonographer told us about ... Read more...
Lauren’s story
We decided to start trying for a baby last summer thinking it would probably take a few months (if we were lucky) to conceive. But... Read more...
Lee-Anne & Adam’s story
A few days after my birthday in November 2020, I had my 12-week scan. Excited and nervous, I had to go in alone in a mask due to C... Read more...
Emily’s story
My names Emily and I had to have a termination for medical reasons. I named my baby Frankie. I was in Australia travelling and see... Read more...
Chloe’s story
My partner and I decided to try for a baby in October 2021. I had just turned 30, and with a step daughter from his previous relat... Read more...
Rosa’s story
We wouldn’t wish our experience on our worst enemy. We write this story to offer others some small comfort or practical advice. Read more...
Lauren and Michael’s Story
Our little rainbow baby was finally on the way. Except, it wasn’t. Read more...
Zara’s story
On October 26 2018, we said goodbye to our darling son Jesse. Read more...
Laura’s story
I’m a member of a club no one wants to be part of. Read more...
Peter’s story
I’m a brand new Dad and I’ve lost my son: my wife and I have just had to say goodbye to our first born, Elvis, at 18 weeks int... Read more...
A Grandmother’s Story
My darling daughter and her husband had received the most devastating information about their beloved as yet unborn son, the preci... Read more...
Notes to my daughter Oliver
On October 25th 2018 I found that I was pregnant. I worried every single day that I would lose you but by the scan on 28th Decem... Read more...
Haley’s story
T.O.P. That’s what I saw typed on my notes as I sat across from the registrar. She was talking to me about my latest missed misc... Read more...
Silma & Binit’s story
What a whirlwind of a year so far. In January of this year, coronavirus was not a word mentioned in majority of the households in ... Read more...
Kelly’s story
17th September 2019, I sat alone in the clinic waiting to say goodbye to our much longed for daughter Molly. Read more...
Sara’s story
It’s been a little over two years since we had, and lost, Luca – our first son. To some, it may sound like a fairly long time,... Read more...
Jo’s story
This week is Baby Loss Awareness week. I have thought very long and hard about sharing this story. I have gone backwards and forwa... Read more...
Alma’s story
Seven months ago we ended our unborn daughters life. She was a day shy of six months in the womb when I gave birth to her at one m... Read more...
Claire’s story
No matter how much we wanted this baby, his welfare had to come first and I couldn’t bear for him to suffer any more than he had... Read more...
Sarah’s story
Despite the happy chaos of our everyday family life, the trauma of losing our second daughter is never far from my mind. It’s ... Read more...
Anna’s story
She noticed there was a problem with the baby’s heart. She wasn’t getting a clear view of the four chambers and wrote in her r... Read more...
Emily’s story
We were excited to start trying for baby number 4 to complete our family. We were lucky enough to conceive on the second month of ... Read more...
Kate’s story
We miraculously got pregnant during the first month of trying. We felt quite unprepared but we were both in a bubble of happiness.... Read more...
Chris and Rosy’s story
We lost our daughter Nefi in August 2019 following a TFMR (termination for medical reasons) when I was 34 weeks pregnant. Read more...
Sara’s story
As it is baby loss awareness week, I felt it was timely to share our tragedy that was losing our beautiful girl, Jessie. Read more...
Laura’s story
Here is my story of the birth of my daughter Poppy Rose. I am an NHS midwife and I work on the labour ward. It has been extremely... Read more...
Katharine’s story
I approached my 20-week scan with the same excitement and joy that I had done for my previous two pregnancies. My husband sat next... Read more...
Hannah’s story
11th August 2021, my world changed forever. We were lucky enough to fall pregnant only a month after coming off contraception and ... Read more...
Julia’s story
This is a story of love, Julia’s story. My name’s Carolina, I was born in Brazil and moved to London in 2016. I’ve always dr... Read more...
Lauren’s story
We found out we were expecting a few weeks after our Honeymoon. This was our third baby and a little unexpected. Life was just beg... Read more...
Yin’s story
“Your baby’s head is big! I don’t want to alarm you but just be prepared.” These words from my sonographer changed my life... Read more...
Zara’s story
As I begin to type our story, Zara’s story; there is still an overwhelming fear of judgement. And yet we know we made the right ... Read more...
Rosie’s story
I had my 20-week scan on a Friday. My husband and I were expecting everything to be fine. I had started to feel movement, although... Read more...
Ayesha’s story
I remember finding out I was pregnant with Hannah like it was yesterday. It was July, lovely weather and not long after my first d... Read more...
Samantha’s story
Our gorgeous Oxie-May was born sleeping on 4th September 2020. Read more...
Maya’s story
2020 was a hard year for everyone, but in September our family had some news, something to finally look forward to! After 18 month... Read more...
Our experience is something I’ve struggled to talk about and this is the first time I’ve written any of it down. I won’t lie, it’s been tough and there’s been many tears, but I would do it over a thousand times if it helps just one person that has to go through TFMR.
- Kelly
Stories about testing in pregnancy
Jacqueline’s story
After a long, difficult journey of secondary infertility, including a missed miscarriage, I finally got pregnant. Such a long-awai... Read more...
I spoke to ARC about TFMR and their experience with London hospitals. I had the feeling I could ask all the questions I couldn’t ask anyone else.
- Jacqueline
Stories about ending a pregnancy for maternal health reasons
Ja’Nai’s story
People say having a child changes your life forever. I am here to say yes this is true, no matter if your child lives or dies. Read more...
Jo’s story
This week is Baby Loss Awareness week. I have thought very long and hard about sharing this story. I have gone backwards and forwa... Read more...
If I could give a bit of advice to someone just joining the shittiest ‘club’, seek out support. Your tribe is out there.
- Ja’Nai